Free Wedding Speeches? It’s best to write your own!

The call, more frightening than one from the IRS, comes in, “I’m getting married, I want you to make a speech.”

The great joy in your heart for your best friend, the bride or groom, is being overwhelmed with dread. A USA Today poll revealed the average person fears public speaking above all other fears including death.

You need a free wedding speech because who can afford to hire someone to write something pithy and funny and cheap. So you search the internet and find a link that promises free wedding speeches only to discover they provide you with a few tantalizing tips then try to sell you a program or book. Well, unless you want to go into the business of giving these little speeches at all manner of functions, a prospect more daunting than becoming a professional bounty hunter, you’ll pass on buying the software.

Easing the Fear of Making a Wedding Speech

Still, you have to write that speech. Here is the ancient secret wisdom passed down through the ages about great public speaking: if you truly care about your subject, your audience will be intrigued and captured by your passion. Thus, it’s easy to deliver a memorable wedding speech because you truly care about the two people, your friends, who just got married. This is your once in a lifetime opportunity to publicly express your affection for the bride and groom.

The first rule is to keep your speech short, five to ten minutes max. See, it’s getting easier already. Most importantly, write out the speech ahead of time with any anecdote or funny story you want to include. Maybe even practice it in front of friends. Being prepared can be very comforting when the big day comes. You don’t have to bring the written speech with you to the reception, it’s just that writing it will help you to remember later.

Start by introducing yourself and explaining your relationship to the bride and groom, perhaps recalling a favorite memory of time spent together. It’s perfectly all right to be nervous, emotional, even cry a bit, you are safe among friends who really want to hear what you have to say. The wedding speeches can set the mood for the rest of the reception so be yourself and let people know how you’ve seen the bride and groom change for the better since they met. This is not the time to tell negative embarrassing stories; wait until after dinner when everyone has had a few drinks.

Finally, acknowledge each family, wish for everyone’s good health, wax eloquent about the beauty of the bride, kid the groom a bit about how lucky he is to marry this great woman and ask everyone to raise their glasses to the newlyweds. Hold your own glass straight out from the shoulder to the objects of your toast, say a final word and take a drink.

That’s it! Now you can relax having done your duty.


About the Author

KatRama BrooksI'm a risk taker and visionary fascinated with the myriad of possibilities available to us as we journey through life. Brought up in Shanghai, I lived in La Paz, Bolivia and now reside on Kauai. I speak three languages fluently. I used to be a graphic designer, now own two wedding companies, and love to do ritual and ceremonies. I am also an astrologer and like working with subtle energy fields. I'm married to a wonderful man who is also my business partner, a great wedding photographer and writer. I love nature, dancing, singing, and traveling.View all posts by KatRama Brooks